Control Flow & Networking
The problem is: there's nothing and everything to be said.
The problem is: I can't help but wonder—what if it had been me? It would've resulted in ugly crying or screaming or my completely shutting down. I might've even missed the assessment we had the next day.
The problem is: it shouldn't have happened to her, or anyone. I don't care if it was late. I don't care how much they'd been drinking. And I don't think you should either.
The problem is: we don't think it's a problem.
At a required tech networking event one of my female peers had a guy developer attempt to kiss/make out with her. At her first tech networking event. I'm angry about it. When the peer bought it up during class with the Career Readiness teacher (also a woman) today, it was brushed off. Now, I wish I had said more in that moment.
If nothing else, I could've pointed out the contrast in the guys in our group who freely drank and ended up with 20+ business cards to me who doesn't know if she can stomach another one of these events sober without constantly self-monitoring and self-interrogating—constantly wondering if I'm sending "the wrong signals" to some general offense to human decency who uses drunkenness as an excuse to ignore consent.
So many of the women in this cohort are about a decade younger than myself, and I feel we—as older women who have been through this sort of thing before or who have friends who have seen it all and worse—owe it to them to make sure the tech community has space for bright young women, who can be both on the cusp of greatness and also at their most vulnerable in a largely older, largely male community.
After I upload this post, I'm writing the Career Readiness teacher to ask if there's going to be any discussion about sexual harassment on the future curriculum. It's a crucial part of career readiness for women, men, everyone in tech.
Edited to Add (ETA): I heard back from the Career Readiness teacher today and am pleased that she was sympathetic to my complaint and will be looking in to having a sexual harassment talk as part of the curriculum. We also have a planned Woman in Tech panel coming up, which might be a good place to raise questions on this topic.